ほっし校長 The real reason why my grandmother with stomach cancer wasn’t notified of cancer
About 30 years ago, my grandmother had stomach cancer and was fighting illness, but she was not notified of the cancer.
I know the reason.
My maternal grandmother was in poor physical condition and underwent a detailed examination at the hospital.
A close examination revealed a small polyp in the stomach. I was told that my grandmother’s condition,
However,
In fact, it was actually the final stage of gastric cancer (terminal cancer).
My grandmother died without being told about it.
I know there was a more important reason why my grandmother wasn’t notified of cancer.
The reason is,
① My grandmother’s mental strength against illness is weak
② My grandfather’s mental state may become unstable
Being worried
In other words, neither grandmother nor grandfather can withstand the cancer announcement.
Perhaps, in most cases, when one of the couples has cancer and decides whether to announce it, the couple will tell only the person who has the cancer.
Of course, if the mental strength of the person who has developed cancer cannot withstand the cancer notification and there is concern about mental collapse, it is decided not to notify the person.
The reason why I decided not to notify my grandfather was that he was worried about his weak mental condition.
If I tell my grandfather that my grandmother has cancer, I think I can keep the secret secret at first, but as I see the grandmother’s appearance as the treatment is prolonged and my grandmother’s condition is expected to deteriorate, It is possible that his grandfather’s mental state may change.
If I tell my grandfather that my grandmother has cancer, I think I can keep the secret secret at first, but as I see the grandmother’s appearance as the treatment is prolonged and my grandmother’s condition is expected to deteriorate, It is possible that his grandfather’s mental state may change.
The mental strength of the person who has developed cancer is the most important, but the cooperation of close relatives around the patient is important, and it is essential to maintain the mental strength of those people. If a close relative who has become mentally unstable and has a mental collapse unintentionally tells the person about cancer, the confidentiality will collapse and the fact will be notified to the person who developed the cancer at once. Then, needless to say, the person will be mentally collapsed.
People can’t imagine when their mind is stable, but they think that they have to give a cancer notice in consideration of the case where their mind collapses due to some reason. And for that purpose, I came to think that the cooperation of my close relatives, including my husband and wife, was more important than anything else, triggered by my grandmother’s cancer.
I don’t have any medical expertise, but since I am a cancer survivor and my grandmother was a cancer patient, I would like to say what I think from my own experience.
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