What to do before your child is notified of cancer ①

What to do before your child is notified of cancer

It is a story assuming a very heavy situation. But when we actually face this problem, we must accept the harsh reality as an inescapable fact.
What’s more, if you are a child, you will have to face the harsh reality, and as a parent, you will be cut off.
What should we do if this situation actually occurs? Or how do we have to deal with it?
As a childhood cancer survivor, I will talk about what to do in this situation based on my experience.
I developed osteosarcoma when I was 10 years old.
The doctor in charge confirmed the approval of the amputation of the right leg, abandoned the surgery depending on the condition of metastasis, and explained about life expectancy.
During the explanation from my doctor, my mother who was crying, and the shock and sadness that I couldn’t even talk about in a single word, and the very complicated emotions rushed in, and my heart was almost crushed.
In the case of childhood cancer, there are pros and cons as to whether or not to notify the child who has developed the cancer, and I think it is a case-by-case basis.
I will talk about the pros and cons of this at some point.

◼️ What to do before your child is notified of cancer
① Please be close to your child and have a lot of conversations.
If possible, sleep by your side even at bedtime.
Even a child about 10 years old feels a casual atmosphere and realizes that something terrible is happening to him even before he is notified of cancer.
Anyway, please try to stay by your side so that you don’t feel lonely.
In a relaxing environment, such as reading a book together or watching TV or YouTube, if you snuggle up and talk a lot, your child’s mind will calm down and the anxiety will gradually disappear.
After this, look at the face of your child who is notified of cancer and be careful not to start crying.