[Must-see for parents] How to misrepresent feelings to a child who has childhood cancer

[Must-see for parents] How to misrepresent feelings to a child who has childhood cancer

This is a must-see for parents of children with childhood cancer.

Parents will surely say this word when they see a child who has cancer and is having a hard time.

[I want to change the pain of my mom (dad)]

But this is wrong.

Then, I will explain why it is wrong.

I developed childhood cancer (osteosarcoma) when I was 10 years old.
I am very grateful to my parents for what I did at that time.
And I still remember what my parents did and I will never forget it.

I, a childhood cancer survivor who has had such an experience, will explain.

When I saw a child who had cancer and was having a hard time, my parents just said

“I want to change the spicy food”

I will tell your child.

but,

① For example, even relatives can take the place of painful things
Can’t be

② “I want to take the place of my painful feelings”
As I said, your child’s spiciness will be lighter
Not really.

Your child will be very confused when spoken by his parents.

It’s even more confusing because it conveys the feelings of your parents.

For parents, the child is in the heart

“Thank you. I only have feelings.”

You would think.

Your child will pay attention to the words of his kind parents.

and,

[Never get someone to take the place
What you can’t do]

[I have to accept everything]

It reminds me of a very painful feeling.

and,

You can hit the reality again.

Your child will once again be overwhelmed by the painful feelings.

Parents will be pleased to be able to convey the word to their child when they say this word.

Originally, it is not possible to cure the childhood cancer that the child has developed, nor can it be used as a substitute, so it is a little reassuring to get a little satisfaction.

However, the thoughts of my parents are

[I want to free this child from painful feelings]

However, it is not easy to achieve.

I remember that it was a very painful and harsh reality.

So what should parents do to their children?

or,

What kind of voice should I give to my child?

The answer is

The answer is

[Being close to the side, not words]

is.

and,

[Parents should hug your child]

I want you to hug me over and over again.

I was hugged by my mother when I developed childhood cancer
I was so happy that I burst into tears.

[There is love that cannot be expressed in words between parents and children]

Instead of forcing it in words

It is also nice for children to wrap up with emotions.

And the heart is healed.