ほっし校長 [Secret disclosure] Habits of people who have gained the power to be close to the feelings of cancer patients
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For me, to your feelings
You can snuggle up
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For you, to the feelings of others
You can snuggle up
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Yes, when you think, your illness is already
Heading for healing
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The kindness of being close to people is transmitted from person to person.
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You are the one who creates the
opportunity.
If you are suffering from illness, lost or worried
Let’s be close to people in the same situation
Meeting with people is inevitably met in the same situation.
People who treat people with a kind heart are watched over by all.
In other words,
If you are suffering from illness, lost or worried
Will be saved.
From an early age, I had many illnesses and suffered.
When I was young
“No one can understand my suffering.”
I strongly felt.
I knew it from an early age.
I wanted you to understand my illness correctly before I could cure my illness.
These are narcissistic, but
If you turn your feelings toward altruism a little from here, you will see another world.
There is no doubt that it is better if you can cure the illness.
but,
In many cases of cancer, it is not easy to cure,
In that case, it would be nice, calming, and reassuring just to get to know yourself suffering from an illness.
Every time a person gets sick, he feels uneasy.
In that situation, by giving kindness to other people (similarly those who suffer from cancer),
I think you can enrich your heart.
This is very important.
And I think this is what it means to be close to people.
I will tell you the conclusion first.
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Habits of people who have gained the power to be close to the feelings of cancer patients
1️⃣ [Near people] With people’s habits
With feelings of self-love and narcissism
In a situation where I am suffering from illness, lost, and worried
Similarly,
Continue to give gentle feelings to those suffering from illness
2️⃣ [Near people] What are people’s habits?
By communicating “the power to live” with your heart and soul,
I can feel it.
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With feelings of self-love and narcissistic love
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Continue to give gentle feelings to people suffering from illness
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Meet with heart to heart
Why did I pick up this theme?
🔷 Why do you need this?
“Wrong kindness” hurt the hearts of childhood cancer patients
Because there are times.
The wrong kindness is not close to the feelings of cancer patients.
Rather, it can hurt the patient’s heart.
So what is “wrong kindness”?
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1️⃣ A sympathy that is held only when the adults are in a relationship
2️⃣ In the situation where the patient was placed, encouraged that “even if you lose your limbs, you only need to have a life”
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This kind of thing is really happening.
At that time, I was 10 years old, so I couldn’t argue with my own words to adults.
I was just asked, but I remember that it became very painful.
In 1️⃣, I can’t say anything, considering the position of my parents.
Even in 2️⃣, I remembered that I was frustrated and regretted and wanted to cry, saying, “I haven’t given up on losing my hands and legs yet!”
People’s words are kind, but in that situation,
It ’s a very cruel word,
Misunderstanding the other party
It will hurt you.
Some people said, “There are people who are more painful and difficult,” and said what they wanted to say, and were satisfied with the encouragement.
It’s never a word of encouragement for patients,
I have the impression that you are satisfied.
It is also very painful to misunderstand that “a sympathy for an adult relationship”.
It’s very difficult to get an accurate picture of the other person’s feelings, but I think it’s probably even more difficult for a child patient, and at that time I was also able to accurately grasp the other person’s feelings. I couldn’t take it, and I may have misunderstood it.
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Explain why you need this article.
🔷 The reason why this article is necessary is that it is important for the people around the patient to understand it first.
that is,
Even if unintentionally
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Don’t say words that disappoint your hope
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You have to think carefully and choose a word.
This is actually one of the experiences that made me want to cry because it was so painful.
and,
We want patients to feel joyful to have people come to visit us, and to make it very enjoyable.
That’s one of the reasons why this article is needed.
“That person will come to see me.”
Yes, just thinking about it makes me excited all day long after waking up at the hospital.
I will never forget what I was happy about and how I felt at that time.
And make me smile
(Actually, it’s a little embarrassing).
However, on the contrary, there are sympathies that make it painful and sad.
That is a sympathy that takes place only in the relationship between adults.
My parents’ company colleagues come to visit me.
This in itself is perfectly fine,
I’m very happy,
For children, that is
“A sympathy only for adult relationships”
I feel that it is.
When that happens, the patient feels very sad.
You have to make sure that you don’t feel that it’s just a sympathy for an adult.
However, I can’t force people who come to visit me to do that, and … it’s very difficult.
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[Secret disclosure]
Habits of people who have gained the power to be close to the feelings of cancer patients
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will explain the contents.
If you read this article to the end, you will be able to recognize the ultimate future and hope that it will make a big difference in your life.
that is,
I think it will help to gain the power to be close to the feelings of cancer patients.
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The ultimate future with “power to snuggle up”
🔷 The best future you can get
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🔷 What is the best future you can get?
With the power to be close to the feelings of the cancer patient, your words will help the patient smile and regain their brightness.
When you see that lovely smile, you will be filled with happiness.
And you will know that only you can do that.
Be close to the patient with your own feelings and continue in a way that only you can.
The patient will rely on you as the basis of his or her heart.
Just being by your side will make you feel happy.
The patient’s mind is healed and he can concentrate on treating the cancer.
You will be able to get a smile from the patient who is getting better and teach you the power to live.
“Zest for life” is not conveyed in words, but is felt by communicating with one’s heart.
I can’t say that in words,
The only way is when you get to know the patient, it’s a feeling that naturally comes to your heart.
When this “zest for life” is transmitted to my heart, I can’t stop crying with a feeling of happiness that rises from the back of my chest.
I could feel it when I was a cancer patient.
It was only then that I could feel the utmost happiness as if it overflowed from my chest.
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Habits of people who have gained the power to be close to the feelings of cancer patients
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The conclusion, as I said earlier, is the following 1️⃣2️⃣.
1️⃣ With feelings of self-love and narcissistic love, in a situation where oneself suffers from illness, is lost, and is worried, continues to give gentle feelings to those who suffer from illness as well.
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2️⃣ You can feel the “power to live” by communicating with your heart.
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For those who want to get “power to be close to”
🔷 If you have a desire to come true, you can get “the power to be close to you”.
🔷 Changes in a person’s feelings change their behavior and their words.
I believe that future thoughts will open up and create a new life, regardless of past experience.
Therefore, if you have that feeling, I think that anyone can gain the power to be close to them.
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Why you should do it now, why you shouldn’t do it
🔷 Explanation of why you should do it now
Here, I will explain the content, “That’s why you should do it now”, but the reason is simple.
I will tell you the reason first.
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・ Because it is necessary to open the patient’s heart
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Then, I will explain.
Suppose someone you know develops cancer.
Then there will be a gap between you and the patient.
The gap is “people who have cancer”
“People who have not developed the disease”
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In other words, patients try to make a big division between “people who have cancer” and “people who have not.”
If you dare to compare it in a tight way,
“I got cancer, but you don’t have it, so I don’t know how I feel.”
That is the state of mind.
In other words, this patient is in a [not open mind] state.
In such a situation, we cannot be close to the patient.
It’s only natural that it will be painful for the patient to be close to someone who thinks “I don’t understand my feelings”.
Here’s why you should do it now on this subject.
Do it right now to open the patient’s heart and heal the patient’s heart by being close to them.
It may take some time for the patient to open their hearts.
It may be possible to keep your mind closed until the end.
However, in the spirit of altruism, we continue to give love to patients.
Please watch over me warmly.
Believing that one day will open my heart,
I want you to keep believing.
Please refer to this article 1️⃣2️⃣3️⃣ for how to open your heart to patients.
〖Reference article 1️⃣〗
〖Reference article 2️⃣〗
〖Reference article 3️⃣〗
【One-legged king】Osteosarcoma Survivor’s Way of Life
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🔷 Explain why it’s bad if you don’t do it now
Earlier, I talked about “why you should do it right now”.
Here, I would like to talk about “why not do it now”.
Let me tell you the conclusion first.
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The reason why I have to do it now is
🔷 It takes time to change the patient’s mental state
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Then, I will explain.
The reason is that “it takes time to change the patient’s mental state”, but it remains as it is.
The main reason for this is that cancer patients are very busy thinking.
Many cancer patients respond to their own cancer.
“Why did I get cancer?”
“What should I do if it doesn’t heal?”
“What will happen to my future life?”
I ask myself, and even if I can’t find the answer, I’ve been thinking about it for a long time, and I’m still in my head.
In other words, I can’t afford to think about anything else.
It’s very painful for my thoughts to continue for a long time and still not be resolved.
It is thought that the thoughts of cancer patients will be rested when the treatment progresses considerably or when the time for complete cure is visible.
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Information and know-how about this theme,
How to find hints for solving
🔷 This site has tips for solving the problems of cancer patients and their close relatives.
In fact, by the time I launched this blog, I spent more than a year writing and preparing hundreds of articles.
Focusing on my own experience and recalling that memory, I wrote down my thoughts at that time.
Currently, I am writing a summary article by systematically organizing your concerns.
To find an article that will give you a hint of your worries, please try the following methods.
・ Please select from the keywords in the title and check the contents.
・ Please select from the categories and check the contents.
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Q & A
Q1; I have no experience of major illnesses such as the onset of cancer. Is it possible for me to gain the ability to be close to patients?
A1; As mentioned above, it is possible to obtain the power to be close to the patient if there is a strong will to obtain that power.
Please refer to the above-mentioned for those who wish to gain “the power to be close to each other”.
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My mission and story
About the background I wrote this article
🔷 If you are a cancer survivor (experienced cancer)
You may be able to understand the patient’s feelings 🔷
This is because I honestly and sincerely thought this way.
It was from the same intention that I launched this blog.
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[Introducing my past medical history (partial)]
🔷 I developed childhood cancer (osteosarcoma) when I was 10 years old.
🔷 I can understand the patient’s feelings and the weight of the mental burden.
🔷 When I developed osteosarcoma, I felt heavy, dark, and wandering in a very deep darkness.
In addition, my doctor’s doctor asked me to notify me of cancer and to approve my leg amputation.
My surgery, which had already been diagnosed with terminal cancer, was performed in a very difficult situation.
🔷 The surgery was successful and I am still living well 40 years later.
🔷 After that experience, I can understand the feelings of cancer patients very well.
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About why we are talking about this time
My blog philosophy
🔷 I had childhood cancer at the time and was crushed with a very painful and very lonely feeling.
I don’t want to have that thought again.
I think so.
And, in the same way, I don’t want children who have cancer to experience the same suffering from adults.
If possible, I want to get rid of that suffering as soon as possible.
I want to reduce the mental burden as much as possible.
Because there is a feeling.
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Mind and body-friendly cancer treatment
I don’t think it’s appropriate to use the term miraculous easily, but I can miraculously detect osteosarcoma early, miraculously narrow the resection range, and miraculously amputate the right leg. It wasn’t, and life was connected.
In the days when I developed childhood cancer, the expression miraculous may be used properly.
This time, as I experienced such a miracle, I developed childhood cancer, and after surgery, hospitalization, anti-cancer treatment, follow-up visits, and home medical treatment.
I would like to write what I think about [cancer treatment that is kind to the mind and body].
At that time, I developed childhood cancer when I was 10 years old, but the period from the examination to the operation was very short, and I performed the operation within about a week from the first examination.
My doctor explained to my parents that in the case of childhood cancer, cancer cells proliferate quickly, so there is concern about the expansion of the onset site and metastasis to other sites.
In my case, my doctor told me that it would be better to have surgery as soon as possible.
How early surgery can be performed to stop the growth of cancer cells depends on how early the surgery can be performed, but if the patient is a child, especially if the patient is in elementary school or younger, the mental burden will be great.
It’s big and there are other things to consider besides surgery.
It is “closeness”.
Even adults who have had various experiences become lonely when they are hospitalized, and if their body is affected by cancer, they feel lonely and are likely to be crushed by loneliness. Will be.
Needless to say, for children who have little life experience.
As a childhood cancer survivor, I can say it clearly.
What is needed for a childhood cancer patient in such a situation is “closeness”.
I want my parents to be close to me the most.
Therefore, parents should be close to their child so that the mental burden on the child is reduced as much as possible.
You don’t have to do anything.
However, just by staying close to your side, you will feel calm and mentally stable.
In my case, I always had my mother snuggle up to me.
I remember being very happy.
I was able to forget about cancer while my mother was by my side.
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